Hello, I’m Martin Jeffrey, and Hrtfl.net is my place on the internet where I share my experience, thoughts and processes to help others with their mental health, well-being and to reconnect with both the internal and external friendships that they have lost. This might be the loss of identity that comes through being someone to many people, from family to business. A loss of friendship with the greater world, society, the environment can all occur under our noses. By being Heartful with Contemplation and Stillness to build the bridges back to who we can be.
You have to bring a little bit of silence into your life. Taking the headphones out of your ears and starting to pay attention to what’s speaking to you.
To what’s about to precipitate out of your life.
To what’s coming into season, the invitation to make a friend with the stranger who’s just about to walk into your life.
The stranger that is you.” – David Whyte
I use the term ‘Heartfulness’ in the same way that Jon Kabat-Zinn, and Stephen Murphy- Shigematsu apply this term, Mindfulness but stripped of the commercialism and focus on being a better ‘you’, instead Heartfulness or to ‘Be Heartful’ can be seen as Mindfulness but applied to the two key motivators of any life, emotion and compassion. Rather than focusing on the ‘head’, the logical, being heartful reconnects you with your figurative heart. When we become self-aware, we gain that greater awareness and recognition that others too have emotions and lives as complex and diverse as ourselves. This is named ‘Sonder’. Through this website, I will bring together processes to create programs that focus on allowing the user to be more ‘Heartful’ to connect with others and society through ‘Sonder’.
“What mindfulness has come to be – which is being aware and accepting – is about a technique, and it really needs to be something broader and deeper. Mindfulness really needs to include people’s motivations. In short, mindfulness lacks heart, and you could also say it lacks soul because it is lacking a depth. Heartfulness brings in more, that in modern times we’re losing that connection with our heart.” – Dr Stephen McKenzie
For the last ten years, I have experienced and dedicated my life to studying Cognitive Behavioural Therapy, Mindfulness, Meditation, Eco-Therapy, and Counselling. While I do not run a ‘practice’ for clients to visit, I prefer to share my knowledge through the internet and digital media.
I have been developed my own theories and approaches to using tools such as mindfulness, emotional intelligence, and compassion-focused therapies. It is here, at Hrtfl.net, I will share them with you and help you find the right tools for self-help. Of course, where possible seek professional advice, but otherwise, do explore my ever-growing website and sign up for my newsletters with free insights and downloadable activities.
The heart is like a mirror. When we dust it off, we are able to see ourselves. The dust is all our stuff – guilt, anger – this stuff is reflected back to us. Practice removes the dust from the mirror of our hearts. – Krishna Das, Musician & Philosopher